Neleh is taking swimming lessons again this fall. Last Wednesday, we went to swimming, dried off, ran by McDonalds for some chicken nuggets before heading to Mass at Mary Queen.
Neleh is 6 years old. Neleh has been taking swimming lessons for a few years now. When she was younger, she would NOT get in the pool with a "boy teacher." Now that she is 6, she should participate in swimming lessons no matter who the teacher is. No more of this song and dance about boy teachers. Or not.
We had a sub yesterday and the sub was a boy. When I saw him from across the pool I thought, "Oh no. Please let her go anyway." Nope.
She saw him and said "It's a boy teacher. I'm not swimming."
*sigh* "Yes, Neleh. You are a big 6-year old now. You can do it." Not happening.
So, Rebekah & I went to the other side of the pool, where the swimming class is. Neleh reluctantly follows. Rebekah & I have a seat on the bleacher to watch the class. Neleh sits too.
"Neleh, you need to get in the pool with your class." No.
"Neleh, you need to at least sit on the side of the pool with your class." No.
"Neleh, you can at least sit at the pool on the other side of the rope from your teacher, yet next to your class." (This was closer to the shallow end where family swim was taking place.) Nope.
"Well, I'm going to sit here and read my book while you decide to swim."
"Maybe I'll jump in at the end."
"Whatever. I'm going to sit here and read my book now." (I'm reading
Playing for Pizza, by John Grisham. Good book!) Rebekah and I got out our books and read.
I have "suffered" through this trial time and time again with her! What do I do this time? She's a little bit older now and perhaps things should be handled differently than before. So, I prayed to the Blessed Mother Mary & the Saints to give me guidance! (I'm getting the hang of this Catholic stuff!)
We sat there for 30 minutes reading. Neleh sat there for 30 minutes not doing anything. The lesson is 45 minutes long. After the 30 minutes were up I gave her an offer, "Neleh, you either join your class or you pay for the lesson. That's $4. I'll give you one minute to make your choice." I watched the clock. She wasn't thrilled with either option. She didn't make a choice. As I always tell them, "No decision is a decision. You have chosen to pay for the lesson. You will owe me $4 when we get home. Let's go." So we packed up and head to the locker room.
About halfway there, I mention that her decision has also forfeited the trip to McDonalds. I had not told them that we were going to McD's like last week, but I had already decided that we were going to. She was very upset with this. "You didn't tell me that! I'll swim!" Nope. Too late. She cried.
I was thankful that I received answers to my prayers! I hope a lesson was learned. She DID pay me for the time when we got home. Perhaps the lesson was "Time is money." Perhaps the lesson was "You should do your best because you never know when you will be rewarded or not." *shrug* I don't know. Time will only tell if this disciplinary action made a difference.
Today we had our Homeschool Co-op, Learning Zone. Neleh behaved very well, even though I was the teacher. Somehow she got it into her head that since she had behaved we should go to McDonalds. This is a very tempting thing to do since Thursdays are kinda crazy for us (LZ, drop of Jill, Soccer) and there really isn't any time to eat. But instead of going to McD or any other "eating place" we went to WalMart and bought some peanut butter crackers. They didn't really complain, but I figured a trip to a drive thru would send the wrong message.
Like I said, hard to say if any of this parenting will "work." Guess we'll see next time a boy teacher shows up at swimming lessons...